Love yourself, you lovely human, you.

Love yourself, you lovely human, you.

Self love and self acceptance are difficult concepts. Especially in the day that we’re living in right now, where Lady Gaga can’t even have a kick butt halftime performance at the Super Bowl without people going on and on about her “fat” (because the people making the harsh comments would look a quarter as good as she did in the same outfit?!). Sometimes you need to take some time to love yourself. I’ve found some of the best ways to go about loving yourself and compiled them here for us all to use! 

1. Make lists.

Write down the things that you don’t like about yourself. Whether it be a physical things, or something about your personality. Literally anything about yourself. If you don’t like it, write it. The catch is that for everyone one negative you write down, you’ve got to write down two good things about you. This may seem kind of pointless, but I’ve actually personally done this a few things. It’s really sometimes hard to find the things to equal out the negatives, but it really makes you self reflect, and the end result is a really positive experience.   

2. Surround yourself with the right company.

Find the friends that are going to pump up your selfies on Instagram. The ones that tell you that you’re going to do great things with your life. Not that you want people that are going to say you look like a 10 when you haven’t showered in 4 days, you don’t need fake. You need supportive. Find your people, and stick with them. Be the friend you want to have. 

3. Stop comparing. 

This is pretty self explanatory. Stop comparing yourself to magazines, celebrities, friends, neighbors, cousins, anyone or anything you may compare yourself to, just stop. If we were all meant to be the same, we would all be the same. Since we’re not all the same, embrace the differences, and refer to number 1.

4. Learn to let go.

Whether it was a bad breakup that left you with words of hatred in your heart, someone giving you a dirty look as you pass them on the sidewalk, something that happened in class, let it go. Learn from how it makes you feel in that moment, but don’t hold on. The longer you let something eat at you, the worse and worse you’re going to feel. Take a deep breath, and find what is going to help you move on. If you just need time, or you need to write something down and tear it to shreds, whatever you need to do or try, go for it. 

5. Embrace your differences.

So what if you don’t like the same music as everyone else, or your style is one all your own. Take advantage of the things that set you apart, and use them to propel you forward. In job interviews, show your potential employer that your difference can be beneficial to everyone involved. Entertain your friends with your special quirk. Encourage them to love their differences, too.

6. Find calm time in every day.

Take whatever amount of time you can, whether it be 10 minutes or 2 hours, and just do something that helps you find a calm place. Don’t say you’re too busy to take time for yourself, because you need to make you a priority. Watch Netflix, scroll through twitter, take a nap, or just stare at the ceiling. Go for a walk, eat a snack, call your mom. Just do something to help you relax and care about yourself for a little while. 

7. Be patient. Be persistent. 

Changes are not going to happen overnight. You have to give yourself a chance to get to the place you want to be. When you aren’t seeing or feeling a difference RIGHT away, keep pushing. Don’t give up on yourself. If you don’t have enough patience for yourself, where are you going to get in life?

8. Start saying no.

If you’re swamped with a whole bunch of everything, don’t feel obligated to agree to every favor your asked to do. 

If you don’t want to hang out with someone because you’re just not feeling it, say no.

If you don’t feel comfortable in a situation, say no.

Stop being afraid of hurting other people and start being afraid of hurting yourself.

9. Don’t hold things against yourself.

Screw up, learn from it, move on. Simple, really. Don’t live in the past and don’t dwell on something that happened ages ago, or even something that happened yesterday. This is definitely easier said than done, but once you start working on letting things go, it gets a lot easier.

10. Have fun.

Simple. Do things that make you happy. Watch Netflix or go out with friends. Host a party or go explore the mall. Whatever you consider to be fun, just do it.


Loving yourself is important because you can’t truly learn how to be loved until you can know what it is you want. Take time and work up to a place where you can look in the mirror and say, confidently, “Wow, I really love this person that I am.” It takes time. It’s something I personally am really working on and really striving for right now. The more patient you are with yourself, the easier it’s going to be.
Be brave, be bold, be strong.

Taylor

Why I’m choosing to be single this semester

Why I’m choosing to be single this semester

All through high school and then through my first half of my freshman year of college, I’ve had boyfriends. Now when I commit, I commit. My shortest relationship was about 3 months long, and that’s the only one that’s been less than a year. I decided to end things because I wasn’t happy. I got to thinking about how much I have been in a relationship, and how little I’ve let myself just be me. That’s why I made the choice to be single for while, and I made a list with reasons that helped me make my decision.

1. I need to figure out ME. My dreams, my goals, and myself.

I’ve spent so much time in various relationships that I haven’t really gotten to step back and figure out what I really truly want. Worrying about the guys I was with and what they wanted/making sure I met their expectations consumed way too much time. From the time I was 13 years old until now, at 19, I’ve been single fora total of 5 months. That’s not what is best for me. I need this time to find out what is best so I can be the best for my future spouse. 

2. Nothing (no one) is going to hold me back.

I don’t have to worry about a boyfriend being angry or upset because I want to move away for college or go out for a night with my friends. I can do whatever I please (okay, whatever is legal and not too against my morals) and not feel so guilty because I have a guy angry at me.

3. I don’t have to constantly wonder if I’m enough.

I don’t have to worry about someone else messaging my boyfriend, someone else making him happier than I make him. I don’t have to compare myself to what he’s had in the past or what he may have in the future and worry about making myself into someone I’m not just to make someone else happy.

4. I get to be the lead role in my own movie.

I just find this one pretty fun. I get the spotlight in my life. It’s not me AND. It’s just ME. And for the first time in a long time, I’m really happy with that. I’m proud of who I’m becoming by letting myself take the lead.

5. I don’t have to worry about apologizing to anyone.

Okay this is kind of a repeat of what I’ve already said, but I think it’s SO important. Whether it be apologizing because of who I am as a person, apologizing for not wanting to do something, anything. I don’t have to do it.

6. I get to decide my own self worth.

I don’t need a man to tell me I’m pretty to believe it. I don’t need a guy to tell me I can go far to be able to go far. I can tell myself these things, and guess what – it means even more when I can say it for myself. 

7. I’m not someone else’s property.

This is pretty self explanatory.  I don’t need to be treated like a thing rather than a person. I am by no means saying every guy does this/treats a girl this way. But I don’t need to risk the chance of it happening right now. 

8. I don’t need a label.

I don’t need to be “Bob’s girlfriend” or “Joe’s lady friend” or anything like that. I can just be me, just Taylor. 

9. I’m independent.

Okay at this point we’re getting repetitive. But again, the importance of this is so high. I don’t have to check and make sure my actions aren’t going to offend my boyfriend. I can just do. 

10. My happiness is my own.

I get to decide if I’m happy. The only factors that affect me right now are what I choose to let affect me. Now this can still be true with a boyfriend, but I personally end up really stressed dealing with my situations on top of my boyfriend’s. I only have my crappy life to deal with 😉

11. No settling.

I don’t feel the need to stay with someone just because we’ve been “together forever” or because everyone thinks we’re “perfect for each other.” When I decide that I’m ready to date again, it’s going to be on my terms, not because I feel like I’ve got to be with someone, or not be with someone, because of other people’s standards.

12. Less drama.

No explaination needed. 

13. Girls’ nights whenever I want.

No longer do I feel guilty when I want to just stay in with my roommates or go out with a group of girls. I can spend as much time with my ladies as I want to, guilt free.

14. It’s my decision, I don’t get that much control in my life, but I get this.

I don’t get to choose all of the things that go on in my life. I get to choose this. I get to choose this happiness.
I am by no means saying that ladies my age shouldn’t date. I’m not saying anyone shouldn’t date, or should. It’s a decision that is completely up to YOU. Some people are better off with a significant other, and some are better taking time for themselves. However, I had never thought about the benefits of being single until I realized how unhappy I was in a relationship and couldn’t figure out why. I sat down one night and I thought long and hard about this list. I knew that for me, for this time and place that I’m at in my life, it’s what makes the most sense.

Find what makes the most sense for you right now. Whether it’s having a boyfriend or not, going to college or not, traveling or staying put, whatever it is. Don’t be afraid of what happens when you choose to do what your heart desires. Fear what happens when you decide not to do something for yourself.

Be brave, be bold, be strong.
Taylor